Men Share ‘What Did You Not Know Or Realize Until After Living With A Woman?’: And Here’re 40 Of The Top Answer


We're learning all our lives. But some things and experiences teach us more than others.

A month ago, Reddit user Artudetan posted a question on r/AskMen that read, "What did you not know or realize until after living with a woman?" Turns out, a lot!

From "the good bra" to doing the dishes, the post has already received over 14,000 answers and judging from them, getting a roommate can be quite educational!

#1Fine, I'll say it.

I always thought that pads operated like Band-aids and they'd just slap em over their vaginas and absorb everything. It wasn't until I was... 27? When my girlfriend at the time had some as a backup in case she ran out of tampons and I opened it and looked. The adhesive was on the wrong side for my version of how they worked, and it dawned on me that they're supposed to be stuck to their panties, not their vaginas. I only regret telling her of that revelation, because she laughed until she cried and then called her mom to tell her about it.
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#2When you’re having a really tough day, she unexpectedly comes home and surprises you with a bottle of your favorite drink, homemade cookies and a dinner you love. And then she cuddles with you while you vent about your now not so crappy day. And you realize what it’s like to actually have someone support you.

And you find yourself wanting to make sure the toilet seat is down, smiling when you can never find anything in the kitchen, rolling with it when the living room turns into a 12 stage laundry OCD deployment zone, and you laugh when you trip over her shoes that are now tangled in a knot of hair bigger than the dog.

Because your house/apartment is no longer a place you live at, it’s now your home. And it’s safe to be the real you, not the show you put on when you were dating.
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#3That she owns only one truly GOOD BRA. There is only one and part of your duty as a man is to protect The Good Bra. If you are doing laundry, you must take the greatest of precautions to make sure it is properly cleaned, dried, and stored. God forbid The Good Bra ever turn up missing or in the wrong drawer.

Ladies, why is there only one GOOD BRA?
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#4I was raised by a woman, so none of it was new to me, except:

Period Panties.

I wasn't shocked or disgusted by it because I wasn't a 12-year-old; it was just like, "Huh. Yeah, I guess I'd have a separate selection of underwear to use when I'm menstruating, too. Why the Hell would I ruin all of my sexy underwear?".
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#5I learned that bathroom can smell like soap and flowers and coconut instead of like pee.
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#6Apparently showering and washing your hair are separate events.
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#7If you leave something on the kitchen counter, it will get put/thrown away. If she leaves something on the kitchen counter, that's where it goes now.
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#8"Period s**ts."#9Pockets are very rare for women's pants. Several years married and still shocked by this.
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#10When you’re done showering, you’re supposed to stay on the bath mat while you dry off, not walk around the apartment#11They fart just as much as men.#12What home feels like.
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#13Apparently, cleaning the toilet on the regular is much, much more important than I'd previously thought.
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#14How nice house plants are. Now I have all kinds of plants and my place feels so much more nice and relaxing.
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#15Just how expensive and shoddy brands for women are.
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#16There is a wrong way to hang clothes to dry.
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#17If they leave stuff at the bottom of the stairs, that means you’re supposed to bring it up. If it’s at the top of the stairs, you should bring it down. Also, the correct place for objects in the kitchen is where they currently reside. Stuff is gonna move around constantly, just roll with it.#18They have a really weird obsession with glass containers or jars.
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#19No matter how many bobby pins are in the house, there is always a need for more.
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#20Hair ties actually disappear faster than MIA socks. Until you find 20 in a kitchen drawer.
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#21One corner of the shower will become a "graveyard" for bottles of shampoo, conditioner, all sorts of stuff.#22Women are both simultaneously messier and cleaner than men. It’s bizarre how messy rooms can get with them and how quickly they can turn it around and make it clean!
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#23An innocent cleaning excursion in the right circumstances will lead to a full-on reorganization of all the dang furniture in the house, if you're not careful.
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#24The hair that gets stuck in the shower drain. OMG.
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#25You find out the amount of food that a refrigerator can really hold.
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#26Fancy makeup takes a long time.
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#27You’ve been doing laundry wrong your whole life.
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#28Turns out RuPaul’s drag race is a great show#29I never realised that she'd start wearing my clothes. T-shirts, sweaters, not even my damn underwear is mine any more!
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#30I load the dishwasher so inefficiently, I'm no longer allowed to load it at all.
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#31I have freaked out too many times at what I thought was a 52-legged spider clinging to my bathroom wall.
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#32That there can never be enough throws/blankets/cushions.
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#33That moisturizer goes on the body too.
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#34Strange new foods will appear in the cupboard and the fridge. This is actually good, you will get to try new things.#35There is an incorrect place for hand soap on the sink.
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#36The wardrobe in your bedroom that you agreed to share 50/50? Just like the bathroom, in a few years it will be 90/10.
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#37No matter how much you vacuum or sweep the floor, there will ALWAYS be hair in the floor.#38When long, loose head hairs wash off in the shower, it's common practice to stick them to the wall rather than let them collect in the drain.

If she forgets to remove them afterwards, it can be very confusing for the next person in the shower. Why are there a bunch of individual strands of hair deliberately stuck to the wall?
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#39To get rid of bangs you don't just cut them off.
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#40They're not nearly as neat and tidy as they want you to believe.
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